it’s not that hard to apologize
13 Nov
I’m sure you’ve had this experience many times:
You mess up or screw up something. It may be huge, it may be small, but somehow, something went wrong, and you’re to blame.
Or you have this riotous argument about something, you insist and swear you are the right one and the other person is wrong. You even have facts to prove it. Wrong facts.
What happens when you realise you were wrong, or that you are the one to blame?
Our instinct is self defense, we go round and round in circles trying to make excuses, blaming someone else or telling even more lies or worse, adamantly refusing to admit our guilt…
Have you ever realised how absolutely liberating it is to simply say, “I’m sorry. I was wrong.”
A few words, a million lies saved, a new bond made, and one giant leap in the right direction.
Think about it.
“I messed up. I’m really sorry.”
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Offtopic:
“Never ruin an apology with an excuse.”
- Kimberly JohnsonI humbly apologise for reality Television.
- Cilla Black
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I’m sorry SK, but I never blame myself. NEVER. I’m always RIGHT!!! Even when deep inside I know I’m wrong and I’m the one to blame. That said, I usually do apologise. I say sorry and yes, it is liberating. Like right now I’m gonna have to say “I’m sorry” to Nevender for stealing his socks.
William Shakespeare once said, ” Be true to yourself. But to the world, like like hell.” What Shakespeare says, I do. Afterall, he’s a legend, no?
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I’m sorry, I dunno how to do that bold stuff in comments.
It’s not that hard. Not that hard at all.
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I have tried that before, sometimes even when I am right, apologize because I hate to fight…
at the end of the day I am still pissed.
I dont know what to think anymore.
sorry but i don’t say sorry
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I think it is liberating….it kinda makes you have the upper hand in any disagreement…this is especially when its the other person in the wrong and you both know it….lol…its makes the other person more guilty than they already are…when said at the right moment , in the right way….lol…i do it all the time…lol..
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SK…yes, it is easy to say. Hard to do.
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I realised continuing with arguments does not yeild any good and say sorry for the sake of peace even when am right.
Many times I’ve learned to take the blame then quickly and strongly apologise for it. I’ve learn’t that sayin “My Bad -Am sorry” simple as they are can go a long way in bringing the person back to cheer unless of cource they have major beef for you, but that’s another story
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I know I always win by losing. Saying sorry is one of the ways.
i have no problem with apologising but that up there would be a problem… although i would most likely do it
my friend says i never apologise. i hear she is the one that ends up apologising even if clearly i am the when in the wrong. which makes me think that i am always in the right. which brings me to the little fact that i am miss right!
@Miss Cheri, lol, you are NEVER wrong or neywvar wrong? And yes, you need lessons on those bold and italic and lol, there are many things shakespeare said that you do not want to do.
@Teti, truth in those words
@Scotchie lol, maybe you’re doing it wrong, you should be at peace after your apology. At least to an extent.
@Erique, nice conundrum, hehehe
@Ugandan girl, lol, you brand of apology is more like sarcasm, works, but for evil purposes, hehe.
@Nev, it’s pretty hard to do, but once you do it…
@Emi’s, it’s very liberating, isn’t it?
@Mudamuli, winning by losing… interesting…
@Sybella, that up there?? huh?
@antipop, you kanungu woman, ever to be on the stray side. whatagwan?
rogue king, nothing ruins an apology than an excuse right after. apologies are just that-apologies. the excuse /explanation should be given when asked for and timing isof essense here.
however right the reason for doing something, if an apology comes, the excuses should be left out first. holla back
my one may find me in the wrong and want to argue about it, but saying am sorry- always puts him off balance, after all, we usually say its ok after one tells u am sorry, so nothing gets said after wards, winner takes it all here.holla
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I try to apologise but end up fumbling with words…!
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